A 5-year-old accidentally gets dirt on a 3-year olds face. You don’t see it but you hear the crying. So you go check and then see the 5-year-old spit in the 3-year-olds face. You assume they are being a bully. When you ask the 5-year-old why they would do that she says, “I was trying to get the dirt off his face.”
What we assume often doesn’t match what is actually happening. All around us this happens.