How to be remembered

Do something memorable.

How?

There are many paths one can take.

You can create music, you can write a book, you can start a charity or volunteer your time…

There is no path.

You get to choose your art.

Whatever it is you decide, the shortest one always follows generosity.

Be generous.

New car smell

What are we really buying?

If someone can figure out how to bottle it, that be really cool. Alas, you just can’t beat the new car smell.

Why is that?

Because of the story we tell ourselves about a new car smell.

Everyone knows that a new car smell can’t last forever. As soon as it wears off, it no longer has the same glamour.

What we are really talking about is status. For a moment, we gain a bit of it when someone asks, “Is this new?”

Find a way for others get that status and you are on your way to gaining enrollment.

Of course, we are not just talking about a new car either.

How to respond to a critic?

Thank you.

Thank you for reading this blog.

Thank you for caring enough and to be brave enough to say something.

And now, it is time for me to go back to work.

Because that one critic doesn’t represent the whole world.

That one person represents one world view.

Perhaps though, it is a clue to what someone like them thinks.

And if it is someone you seek to serve, you can now make something better.

Doom and gloom?

Here are the highlights of 1968:

  • Dr. Martin Luther King and Robert F. Kennedy were both assassinated.
  • North Korea captured the American surveillance ship USS Pueblo which led to an 11-month standoff that would ultimately worsen Cold War tensions.
  • Many, many protests had broken out in opposition to the draft and the Vietnam War.
  • Star Trek had aired its first interracial kiss.
  • We had successfully orbited the moon.
  • Olympic medalists, Tommie Smith and John Carlos, made a silent protest on stage for Human Rights.
  • Richard Nixon had been elected president.

We’ve come a long way over the last 50 years. And while the decade closes in perhaps not the best of places there is plenty to be hopeful for.

Because a record number of women, people of color and LGBTQ have been elected to congress.

Because we have seen the minimum wage raised in so many states.

Because of social movements like #metoo, #blacklivesmatter and #nobannowall.

Because the greedy and corrupt can’t hide the same way anymore.

Because in 30 years it is estimated that America’s majority will be people of color and mixed races.

Because more women are going to college than men.

While the problems we have are urgent and important, because of people like you, things have and continue to change.

It isn’t doom and gloom. The narrative is there to purposely cause people that care to give up.

Instead, make a ruckus.

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Phase-out people

We don’t actually say goodbye to as many people as we used to.

Thanks to social media, you can keep tabs, check-in or stock from a distance.

That shift is vastly different from ten years ago.

And so, we tend to keep people around us. Perhaps, even longer than we should.

Not everyone you meet is going to be extraordinary. As a result, we begin to surround ourselves around mediocrity and become more comfortable with it.

The real decision then is figuring out who is actually a real friend and who is just someone we know on Facebook.

Who is actually helping you become the person you want to be?

And…

Who is keeping you from reaching your goals?

Make no mistake, we need friends. Humans are built to connect. But the amount of friends has nothing to do with quality.

We need to surround ourselves with quality people. Even if we must say goodbye to some for a time and season.

Setting a good example from a distance maybe all we can do. It’s better than living under your potential.

Incomplete pictures

To our senses, the world is incomplete.┬áBecause we can’t know everything that is actually happening around us.

When we observe the parts but perceive the whole, it’s called closure.

Our entire reality and narrative are based around this concept of closure.

Because in our eyes, the world is incomplete.

That is why it is impossible to truly make an unbiased decision. There are no unbiased decisions, only more informed.

No matter how hard we try, the world as we perceive it is still fragmented. It’s impossible to take it all in. Our perception of reality then must rely on faith.