Suffering is part of the human condition. Take, for example, a promotion. When we don’t get that promotion, we suffer. When we do get the job, we still suffer. Because now we have to deal with all the stress that comes from taking a new job. Further, everything is temporary. What we have whether it is a title, bigger paycheck, etc.–is only for a brief moment that joy we feel.
Too often, we use these opportunities to distract ourselves from the fact that life is short. This is why we can still suffer when we get what we want. The answer then isn’t to just substitute the “bad” with the “good” On the contrary, it learning to ride the journey, regardless of what we think is best for us, that we can really experience this life. We can train the mind to see things differently.