Do we do this pain to ourselves or is it an outside force?
Is it really the boss’s fault or is it yours for sticking around at a place that doesn’t appreciate you?
Is it the market or economy’s fault or did you make a bad bet?
Is it the emergencies fault or did you not plan for a rainy day?
When we have a more resilient system in place we tend to blame outside forces less. That’s because the pain we feel in this moment stings much less if we planned for it.