The more tightly we hold on to this label that “I am a good person” then we are less likely to examine how we cause harm to others.
That doesn’t mean we need to shame ourselves but rather accept that each of us is a work in progress.
It’s easy to see the flaws of others, to tell ourselves a story that makes us feel better. We need to remember, people are more than just a list of good things and the bad things we see.
Everyone wants to be the hero in their story. The problem is how quickly we are to cast those around us as a villain.