Getting better

The goal isn’t to win.

Say your goal was to lose weight, you could just start smoking meth but that would obviously be detrimental to your health too.

How you play is even more important.

So, what are you doing in the next minute, the next hour, the next day, week, month, year to get closer to your goals?

Sometimes progress is measured in millimeters. The tiniest of steps we take every day can make all the difference.

And if you are doing it the right way, what else matters?


Every professional basketball player has a ritual before stepping up to the free-throw line.

They take a few breathes, relax, visualize the shot going in.

And the same is true for golfers or even astronauts.

Every high performer has a ritual that helps visulize success and so should you.

Nervous to give a presentation or to ask someone on a date?

Build a ritual, visualize the sequence and execute.

Over emphasize

We tend to focus way more on the things we can see way rather than the things we can’t.

That is what makes art or losing 30 pounds so special.

All you get to see is the process.

You can’t see the result until you get there.

Until then, you have to imagine it.


Iteration is “the repetition of a process in order to generate a sequence of outcomes.”

There is so much power in this.

Want to lose weight? Replace your breakfast every morning with something healthier. Do that for a month. Then next month, replace the soda you drink with water. And so on.

Repeating the process over and over again, slowly replacing one habit with another can change things.

When we talk about the massive problems plaguing our planet such as climate change, iteration is how we can reverse the process.

The most important outcome isn’t a healthy body or planet but a shift in mindset—a belief in doing the impossible.

Because once we can see, it is way easier to believe.


Artificial workouts, artificial ingredients, artificial experiences…

The paradox is:

The more concerned we become about our health, the more artificial things become.


The more artificial things become, the worse our health gets.

Think about it.

Experience doesn’t matter that much

It turns out, that previous experience is a lousy predictor of whether a new hire will be successful.

So, why do we insist on hiring people with previous experience?

It is because if they fail, we can point to someone’s resume and say “they were the most qualified.”

We value experience so much that we forget, people can defy the odds of where they came from to do things we never thought they could do.

You don’t need a shiny resume or born in the perfect circumstances to make a difference.

You simply can be the one who raises their hand.

As a culture, we can do a better job forgetting about yesterday and focusing on today.

Risking too much or too little?

For most of us living in a post-industrial world, I think we risk too little.

The risks we take only feel like they’re big.

We wait for conditions to be just right. For the map to show us the way from A to Z.

Does life ever work this way?

Yet, we continue to hesitate.

Life favors the bold.

When is the last time you actually did something for the first time?

(They say we should look before we leap but I think we spend too much time looking and not enough time leaping.)

“People change”

We often hear that “people change,” especially when we are talking about long lost estranged family members or a terrible boss.

A more accurate statement is, “People can change.”

Of course, we can adapt to new circumstances, take radical steps into disrupting our status quo.

So, why don’t more people do it?

It turns out, change is hard.

So hard that I’m not so sure if people change as often as we think or hope they would. That, in reality, we become more of the same.

Deep meaningful change for the better, that is magic. And when it does happen, it something to be celebrated.


Do you believe people are doing the best that they can?

It’s a fascinating question.

In general, I think most people believe they are doing the best they can and that if we believe that people are doing the best they can, we feel better too.


I also think that when we start to believe that people are not performing it is a symptom of a much bigger problem. It is less of a question of effort and more of a systematic problem.

“Work smarter, not harder.”

Perhaps, we are not leveraging all the tools at our disposal. We fall victim to the marshmallow or can’t resist another dopamine hit. Our status quo gets in the way. Or simply, we are unaware. We fall victim to the environment. Sometimes, without much thought.

I would argue, that we do the best we can based on our environment.

Fortunately, with some will power, we can create a better environment.