At the beginning, especially in our youth, carrying a chip on your shoulder can be extremely useful. It can get you pretty far, pretty fast.

It can also give you that edge you need to stand up eight times after being knocked down seven.

But overtime, that fuel doesn’t burn so cleanly.

It begins to affect the relationships around us. Which is a problem when you share your life with someone.”Me against the world” doesn’t allow enough space for people to come in.

So, when the going gets tough, you lump the people who actually care about you with the rest of the world.

“They must not be with me, therefore they must be against me.”

This is incredibly short-sighted. Because, as it turns out, not everyone is seeking your demise. Not everyone wants to see you fail.

Once you decide that this journey is worth sharing, it’s time to switch gears.