The story you tell is the life you live

If you are asked to focus on finding a red bird this week, chances are you’ll find a red bird.

And if you are asked to focus on the cracks on the sidewalk or graffiti on the walls, you’ll find those too.

It’s impossible for our brains to process everything that is going on around us. There is simply too much information. As a result, our brains create shortcuts to conclusions so that we can make sense of the world.

But those shortcuts can get us into trouble. Our biases, prejudices, worldview can get in the way from seeing the world as it really is.

We tend to notice all the bad drivers, but as a result, we ignore all the good ones.

If the story we tell is one full of struggle, suffering and scarcity, then you will only find those things.

On the other hand, if it’s one full of joy and abundance, it’s what you will find too.

The story you tell is the life you live.

Breaking news cycles

The internet has created urgency to check in on the Now:

What have I missed since I was gone? 

And we forget, there is a lifetime of information produced in the last hour on the internet. Those blogs or columns or videos or documentaries…are not irrelevant.

They’re just operating in the Then not the Now.

There are over 900 blog posts on this blog. All freely given away. Most of these blogs are not about current event in the Now and are still just as relevant today.

I hope you enjoy them. Take all the time you need to go through.

If you could see what I see

Then you would know that I am right.

It’s unlikely, however, that you would make the same decisions I would make.

Because we are all born under different circumstances, we’re were taught different things.

We can’t assume people will change even if we present all the right data and argument.

But it helps, if we can align our stories with each other.

Meaning, if someone has been looking for someone like you to lead them, to assemble them, to guide them through their challenge.

You’ll have a better chance of making something happen.

Economic Principles 201

Every public company in America uses ‘Generally Accepting Accounting Principles’ except the US government. As a result, the way the government does its accounting, investments are counted as spending.

Surprisingly, debt predates money.

Credit default swaps, CDO’s, derivatives…everything you need to know about the 2008 financial crisis can be found by watching this.

Just eight men own the same amount of wealth as half the world. And the richest 1% accumulated 82% of the wealth created last year while the poorest half of humanity got nothing.

In terms of wealth inequality in America our perception and reality is severely out of touch.

And why do we see our homes as investments rather than a place to live?

Finally, why trickle down economics 50 year experiment hasn’t worked for the middle class.

“If the bank runs out of money, it may issue as much money of its own as it may need by merely writing on any ordinary piece of paper.”

— The rules of Monopoly, Parker Brothers, Inc.

The Five C’s

There are five C’s for creating an optimal family experience:

  1. Clarity: When we can set clear, concise goals and boundaries people operating in the system know what they can or cannot do. Less psychic energy is wasted on bickering when there is clarity.
  2. Centering: Being mindful of the present feelings and emotions, rather than worrying about how this will affect long-term goals.
  3. Choice: We live in a world of infinite possibility. And yet, we limit those choices with the lens we choose to see the world. We rarely are in a situation with no choice, just no easy choices left to make.
  4. Commitment: Build a culture of trust—It’s okay to put down your sword and shield. It’s okay to be vulnerable. Don’t be embarrassed at what someone else is doing. Take interest in it.
  5. Challenge: Increase the complexity of problems and tasks we put in front of each other. This is where growth occurs.

Without adversity none of this would matter

In 1847, Ignaz Semmelweis discovered that by simply washing your hands you could reduce the spread of infection.

It took 20 years for the medical community to adopt this practice.

Semmelweis is a perfect example of someone demonstrating virtue. Someone who is willing to stand in the face of adversity, even when no one believes him.

The message is clear: Stand firm.

When we can learn to turn adversity into a positive, even enjoyable experience, we improve our quality of life.

It’s not chance or luck

It’s when opportunity meets preparation.

Luck had nothing to do with it making a breakthrough.

It’s just the narrative, the story we tell, in order to preserve ourselves.

Because most of us are not willing to fail at it for a long time before we make it.

Melancholy: What makes things worse?

Social media.

It’s a trap for comparing yourself to others.

“Why can’t I be happy like them?”

“What’s wrong with me?”

To make matters worse, we measure it with thumbs ups and emojis.

It’s already innate in all of us to not ever feel quite good enough. Social media amplifies these feelings.

The power of day-to-day

It’s not healthy to always feel the urgency to catch up.

Self-improvement is not about making up for lost time.

That’s how burn out occurs.

Instead, we should focus on the day-to-day.

The results of working many days leads to days with many results.

It’s about the direction you are going, not where you came from.

It’s best to develop productive habits early but it’s never to late to start.