Listening is a difficult skill to develop.
When someone is speaking to us (feedback), instead of listening our brain is already thinking about what we are going to say (reaction) without actually listening to what the person is saying.
Our brains cannot multitask, instead we are switching from one task to another very quickly.
In other words, we cannot listen to someone while at the same time think about what we are going to say next.
Better to listen. Absorb. Then think of a proper response (avoid reacting). Initiate.