You finished last

So what?

All finite games have winners and losers. It’s not the game you signed up to play.

The goal wasn’t to win. There is always going to be someone better out there than you.

The goal is to play the game. Over and over again.

If it was easy than it wouldn’t be hard. You don’t develop self-efficacy unless you do hard things.

Instead of waiting to get picked, why don’t you just pick yourself and get to work?

The nature of a gift

When we pay for something, we’re done. Fair and square. Even Steven. No one owes anyone anything.

But when we give something to someone, that form of exchange brings us closer together.

We are moving away from the industrial economy and entering one of connection. We want to know who is connected, who is trusted.

The simplest path towards connection and trust is generosity; give a gift.

And when you feed the network often enough, the network will turn around and feed you back.

Many people will sit there and say, “What? Are you crazy? In this economy? We can’t be giving stuff away.” Yes, in this economy. Yes, in this time in our lives to change someone for the better.

We no longer live in a world of scarcity. We live in a world of abundance. (Not all of us, of course.) But abundance hasn’t fulfilled us.

Do human work that matters. We eventually will notice.

Those are the places we go

Sometimes all it takes to make the world a better place is to lift those up around us.

Doesn’t matter how small the act is if it is out of love.

Generosity is no longer a scarce resource in a life full of abundance. It’s just whether we decide to act.

It really is a bold move to say that I am going to change something and make it better.

But those are the places we go.

People like us do stuff like this.

You will never be ready

We should always be changing in a world that is always changing.

But we get stuck because we find something safe, for a while.

We put ourselves in cages that protect us from a world of possibilities.

The thing is: You will never be ready to say, “I do.” You will never be ready hold your child for the first time. It’s always too early to look someone in the eye and say goodbye.

We waste a lot of time trying to make a world of predictable outcomes before we take a leap.

Leaps, by nature, are not supposed to be safe.

We are all falling with nothing to hold onto and nothing to slow us down. The good news is there is no ground to land on.

What now?

We have become a culture obsessed with asking, “What’s next?”: The new iphone, the next recession, the next  bigger better deal.

A better question to ask is, “What now?”

It’s better to start where you are at than to wait for the tide to change.

You can’t control what is going to happen next. But there is always a choice on how we are going to handle our present circumstances.

In the world but not of it

You can never become competent in a world that is always changing. Because as soon as you become competent at something, the world changes again.

Compliance, competence, following the step-by-step instructions doesn’t work anymore. There is no map.

We are leaving the industrial economy and entering the new economy of connection.

There is an opportunity to build trust and attention. But it doesn’t happen without generosity: Doing human work that brings emotional labor.

It’s a gift.

When we pay for something, we’re done. Fair and square. Even Steven. No one owes anyone anything.

But when we give something to someone, that form of exchange brings us closer together.

Selling average products for average people, being just a little bit better, trying to out Walmart Walmart, isn’t going to be enough.

You’re in a race to the bottom.

So the alternative to race to the top.

There is always room for more people to go above and beyond, to care enough and be bold enough to make the world a better place.