Sometimes, time can heal wounds. The question really should be, how much?
Too much time says we are who we are. Too little isn’t enough to gain new experiences and insights to turn into wisdom.
The answer is likely longer than you expect but shorter than the feeling of “forever.”
Falkner said something of this nature.
It’s important to remember that sometimes things fail—not because you didn’t care enough, but because some things are just out of our control.
In our digital world, it’s easy to find another convenient option.
Don’t like this restaurant, you can try another.
When someone gets stuck in the snow and asks for help, it’s tempting to say, “Call a tow truck.” After all, there is another option for someone to help that isn’t me.
Convenience trains us to look for ourselves and not ask for help. Worse, it sneakily teaches us to make problems someone else’s.
You may regret the decisions you have made because of unfavorable outcomes.
It also needs to be pointed out that making decisions should be celebrated despite the outcomes.
Making decisions is hard. Regret is a side effect for someone who takes control of their life and believes they can change it.
The start of the calendar is an invisible starting line. To motivate ourselves to fix what’s broken, to change what can be changed, to do what must be done.
But we cannot see a real starting line. We create it out convenience to start the next leg of the race. We can use the calendar to flip the script, but finding another reason to begin again each day is just as effective.
Use it if it’s helpful, but more importantly, use it again when it stops working the first time.
There are intentional mistakes. And, of course, on the other end, unintentional. The curious thing is how often we claim unintentional consequences.
Car accidents happen all the time, unfortunately fatal ones. But the difference is that we don’t believe they’ll happen to us.
We believe we are the exception to the rule, that somehow we will escape death. Intentional is starting with the facts.
The truth is difficult to find.
What’s surprising, however, is how few of us want to seek it.
When you read Western classic literature, poetry, or stoicism, you can learn something about humanity—that we are connected to what humans experience.
The thing about lessons is they will continue to appear until we learn them.
Without a mirror, it was very difficult to see what you looked like. You likely could only see a reflection of yourself in water or off an object.
Unless you know what life was like before cell phones, you be surprised how inconvient getting aroudn was.
Its hard to transport ourselves back in time with the modern day technology. We forget how slow the internet was when it first started, what printing 30 pages of Map Quest was like, and just “Google” it wasn’t in daily conversation.
The problem when designing policies, we struggle in measuring effort of those around us. We tend to assume the worst out of people. We perceive our efforts as twice as productive as someone else.
The fact is, life is inherently unfair. Born to particular parents, with a specific condition, or living in extreme circumstances, the list is endless.
What’s more effective is seeing how hard it is just to get through it, much less trying to thrive in it.
Josh Allred's Blog 