About forgiveness

I’m not sure if you have to forgive someone or something for the past. To be clear, we have a bad habit of being quick to anger and slow to forgive. At the same time, I do believe there are some things so egregious that you don’t have to forgive. In fact, the pressure to forgive often shifts the responsibility off the one who committed the misdeeds in the first place. In other words, I think it’s horrible to tell someone, “You’ve got to find a way to forgive.” If you can—please do. If you can’t, however, I think the better step is to learn to accept it and be at peace. Don’t let them hurt you anymore. As the saying goes, “If you want forgiveness, find a priest.”