Debt and relationships

Arguments with people you are close to are worth examining. For one, they are inevitable. The health of any relationship will depend on how quickly a conflict is resolved, not on its absence. What’s interesting is how quickly things will dissolve into debt. I did this, so you owe me that. And you didn’t do this, so you owe me that. Even questioning one’s status or honor can be put into these terms. And once you see it, you can act in all sorts of ways on how to resolve this debt. Quite often, a simple ‘thank you’ or ‘I’m sorry’ can quiet all the noise. However, understanding what you’re arguing about can change the entire conversation.