Affiliation

Indeed, humans love themselves more than any other person in this world. And yet, we care way more about other people’s opinions than our own. Wanting to fit in is a powerful cultural phenomenon with severe impacts. Thousands of years ago, if we were kicked out of the tribe, it could mean death.

Today, however, we are misaligned in that we can find happiness on our own. Happiness is shared. At the end of the day, people are all we have. But there is a reason why we care so much about what others think about us. What’s important is recognizing why and acting accordingly. Does losing this job mean I will be thrown out of my tribe? Probably not.