There is immense pressure in our culture to “find ourselves.” This is a fruitless pursuit. Identity isn’t something you just find. You are who you are at all times. It’s whether we can find the words to the story we are trying to tell, which is also different from the story others tell about us.
Creating an identity could be found in the future, where you are trying to go. It can also be resolved by looking into the past and reconciling it. The now is the tension, the intersection of who I was and who I could become. This is where we can find fertile ground to tell the story we want to tell.
It might be productive to ask, “Who am I?” However, perhaps a better place to start is by asking what kind of relationship I have with time. What makes the past, the present, and the future so different from each other? And why do we work so hard to separate them instead of embracing them? What arc are you on?
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