Sometimes, this is called overcoming the ego or the natural man.
The whole outlook is flawed.
By adjusting, a part of us needs to change; we also say there is a part that we don’t like.
This isn’t the right approach. What is the goal? To fit in? To reach modern standards of status?
Instead, we can change because there are other parts of us to explore and experience. Not because there is something wrong with us. There’s already way too much shame in the systems we have built.