Pro-wrestling is fake

Once you see the spattered blood packs, the breakaway tables, the pulled punches, everything about pro-wrestling looks different.

The same can be said about a magician revealing her tricks.

The magic is gone because we realize it isn’t real, it is an entertainment.

We have to acknowledge the fact that social media, doom scrolling and the 24-hour breaking news cycle, is fake. It is here to give us dopamine hit after hit, and to keep us on the hook.

Know when you are beaten

There is a lot of reasons why a business can fail when starting out:

You can run out of time, money, patience. You can be talking to the wrong audience. Perhaps, you are ahead of your time. Your marketing/delivery can be off.

That doesn’t mean it wasn’t worth the journey. Because when we decide we are going to create something, we are deciding to solve a problem for someone.

That’s noble in itself. But you can’t stay at something forever. Our time here is finite.

Stephen King calls it, “killing your darlings.” It’s a good way to look at it. As hard as it maybe, there comes a time when you must learn to walk away. Every good scientist makes a hypothesis and knows when the experiment is over.

It’s not fair. You have sunk so much time into this project. But much like the fourth year law student, who realizes they hate practicing law–it’s a sunk cost.

The sooner we can accept this, the sooner we can get back to work. Solving the next problem. We need you.

A note about advertisements

Most car commercials look too good to be true. That’s because they are.

If you look carefully most of them have a small disclaimer on the bottom that says this car on display is a “prototype”.

There is a gap between what we can promise (because we can promise the moon) and reality (what we actually can deliver).

Buyer beware.

Tragedy

When tragedy strikes we are quick to tell ourselves that no one could possibly understand what I am going through.

That is grief talking.

Pain, sorrow, guilt, remorse, anger, sadness…all universal emotions.

Let’s be clear: It is not fair what has happened and you are not alone in this.

Each of us has the capacity to sit with the tension of loss even if we haven’t gone through what someone has gone through. Because we have all lost someone or something.

Empathy is the most powerful tool we posses to rebuild and bring people closer together.

The work will fill the time if you let it

There is always more busy work we can be doing.

That’s a fact.

Because the next email, tweet, meeting, emergency, TPS report is always here.

If we let it, it’ll win. And then we sit back, tired and exhausted wondering what we even did with our time.

The alternative is to fill our time with productive work.

Not the kind that is checked off a list but the sorta work that you can be proud of.

It’s your choice what you choose to click (or watch or write or produce).

The first thing we must do is look in the mirror and ask, “Is what I am doing productive or is there something more important that I should be doing?”

When you’re at the end of your rope, tie a knot

Every safe climber knows before you start up the wall you should tie a knot at the end of your rope. This keeps the rope going through the belay device and having something devastating happen.

This is the same reason why airline pilots have a check list. Humans are forgetful creatures. And if we set up the correct systems, the rest can take care of itself.

Important to note here, we are not eliminating decision making; simply limiting it.

Out of control

We have to be clear here. When something is out of control, what we really mean is this is out of our control.

Storming Capitol Hill, fake news epidemic, election results…

“Not my problem.”

“Nothing I can do here.”

The degrees of separation matter here. When something doesn’t directly effect us, when we can go about our lives without much changing, when we can simply opt out; that is privilege.

Each of us have more power to change things than we can imagine. It’s our job and responsibility to bend the culture towards justice.

If only we cared enough–imagine the possibilities.

The negative loop of “Why should I try?”

Why should I try writing this blog if no one reads it? But why would anyone read it if I don’t try?

And around, and around we go.

Outcome are not a guarantee. All we are guaranteed is the work ahead. But when we set up the right systems, when we commit to the practice then we are more likely to get the results we seek.

You can’t catch a fish until you put your line in the water.

Ditch your resolutions

How many of us have already abandoned them?

It is estimated that less than 10% of us actually stick to our New Year’s Resolutions.

If you are not going keep your promises then don’t make them. No one said you had to make one to start the year.

Instead, when you are ready, find one thing you are ready to change, come up with a plan and execute.

It turns out New Years or birthdays or flipping the monthly calendar are not real benchmarks. We create more meaning than there actually is.

Just start when it is time to begin. Don’t wait for a day of significance. Make a day of significance.

Why is the grass greener on the other side?

Because it is! From a distance that grassy field with the sunset in the backdrop just looks better.

Until you get closer you can’t really examine all the faults. You can’t see all the things wrong or get a clearer picture of how things actually are.

It’s hard to imagine things we can’t see.